It Takes Two To Tango Even - Through Sexual Problems
Struggling with the burden of male sexual dysfunction is more than just a problem faced by the afflicted man. The impact on you, the partner, can be equally as devastating. When you have sexual problems, the female partner and any other members of the household bear the burden of day-to-day living with a deeply troubled man. This is a man who questions his self-worth. Perhaps your partner is the type of man who keeps it all to himself. He never talks about the subject and deliberately avoids the tender moments you once so much enjoyed out of fear that it could lead to still another sexual disappointment.
When an erection problem occurs, it is a very common pattern for a woman to attempt to console her partner with statements such as, “It’s not important” or “It does not matter.” Such words, while sincere and loving don’t really offer much comfort, for he knows that the problem really does matter, and not only to himself. It is far better to tell your partner that you know there is a sexual health problem that very much matters to both of you. Emphasize to your partner that you know the problem is not due to any of his feelings toward you. Make it clear that you know there are effective solutions. Finally, tell him that this is something that both of you are going to work through together.
Whether your partner has an erection problem, premature ejaculation or some other sexual problem, investigate possible ways for you and your partner to achieve mutual sexual satisfaction that does not require full vaginal penetration. It is important to let your partner understand that you do not consider this a substitute for intercourse, but rather something you can do temporarily while the two of you work together to overcome the sexual problem.
Remember - optimal health is critical if your goal is sexual vitality. There are workable treatments that now exist for male sexual dysfunction. The treatments, of course, are not perfect. Little more than a decade ago, there was very little hope for many men. Beware that solving a male sexual dysfunction problem is not a cure-all for a badly flawed relationship. Working together with your partner to solve the sexual problem, however, can actually strengthen a basically sound relationship.
The more familiar you become with sexual dysfunction treatments, the more helpful you will be to your partner. It is particularly important that you share all decisions regarding treatments and treatment options for your partner. Being a part of these decisions lets him know that you are in this together. Feeling isolated can be devastating to your partner.
