Men You Can Delay Your Ejaculation
In the past, doctors attempted to define premature ejaculation in terms of how quickly the patient ejaculated was it premature. Some groups used one and a half minutes or two minutes as their criterion. However, no one can put an exact time period on what constitutes normal or abnormal ejaculatory control. Some men with severe PE may ejaculate as soon as their penis touches a women’s vagina, even before entry, or just one or two strokes after entry. Instead of the natural, easy control which men with normal ejaculation enjoy, men with PE have to struggle to hold back, and can only do so with tremendous effort and with a great deal of tension, which takes all the pleasure out of the act for themselves and also spoils it for their partner.
In our society, men often measure their self-worth by the hardness of their erection and by their “staying power.” Men who have poor control, especially if they are unsure of themselves in other ways, may end up with a general sense of inadequacy and failure, and may develop additional sexual difficulties. It is very understandable to want to put off doing something about your PE, and for you to bury your head in the sand with the hope that it will cure itself in time or that you can lick this thing all by yourself. You ought to know that it is highly unlikely that your problem will go away all by itself. And you should also bear in mind that the psychological damage your lack of control is causing to your self-esteem, your sexuality, and your romantic relationships will get worse as time passes.
Some kinds of sexual disorders, such as impotence and the loss of sexual desire, are frequently caused, at least in part, by a number of medical problems. These include poor penile circulation, hormone imbalances, and the side effects of certain medications. But the cause of premature ejaculation is most often psychological. This is especially true for young men and men who have always had this problem. It is a good idea to have a doctor perform a physical examination on you and rule out any illnesses so you don’t have to worry about physical causes. And the doctor can check out any medications that you taking that might cause sexual side effects. Many of the physical conditions which cause sexual symptoms can be treated successfully.
Developing better ejaculatory control involves learning two skills. One is the ability to attend more fully to your own sensations of arousal and tension. The other is the ability to make changes in your behavior that will prevent or delay ejaculation. The control zone represents either sexual arousal or tension. For most men without good control, it’s usually a combination of both. Many men have trouble distinguishing between arousal and tension, but it really does not make much difference for those who want to develop better control. Both can make you ejaculate quickly. When you are having sex, something in you is increasing or rising, whether you call it passion, tension, or something else. That is what you need to be aware of. The best way to increase awareness is to focus on the part or parts of your body where you most strongly feel the rise in arousal/tension. For most men, this is either the penis or the scrotum. You need to know at what level this arousal/tension becomes the point of inevitability. It’s before this point is reached that you need to do something to control ejaculation. Men who have good control have learned that control, usually without knowing they learned anything. And all of us whether we have ejaculatory control or not, have learned to control other reflexes.
