Squeeze Your Way To No More Premature Ejaculation
Premature Ejaculation, or the inability to delay climax until the appropriate time, can be simply a lack of control but can also be caused by prostate inflammation. The nerve stimulation caused by inflammation can add to the sexual stimulation usually responsible for ejaculation and cause climax to occur with less sexual stimulation. This will resolve with treatment of prostatitis when it is the contributing cause. Some men suffer from a more serious problem, which may begin with the onset of sexual activity and persist throughout adult life. Long-standing and persistent premature ejaculation is probably not caused by prostate disease.It is estimated that about one-third of American men suffer from inability to control the timing of their ejaculations. Though the problem usually affects younger men and tends to improve with age, there are men in their forties, fifties, and even older who have it. While ejaculation is a reflex and can’t be controlled perfectly, a man who has developed control can enjoy high levels of sexual arousal. He can allow his arousal to rise to a high level and then more or less level off until he is ready for orgasm.
In contrast, a man with out control tends to go from zero excitement to orgasm without leveling off. He has to come quickly, he has no other choice. He doesn’t get to enjoy high levels of arousal for long. He may try various methods of lessening his excitement, thinking of things other than sex is a popular one, but they work neither well nor consistently. Lack of ejaculatory control isn’t a bad problem to have, because sex therapists have been very successful in resolving it. According to a number of studies, 80-90 percent of men learn better control in therapy, provided they are willing to devote the necessary time and energy. Ejaculatory control is a skill or habit that can be learned.
In general, men with premature ejaculation simply don’t make the adjustments in behavior necessary to stay at high levels of arousal without coming. This may be because these men are not focusing on their own sensations and therefore can’t take appropriate action, because they don’t know when to make the adjustments in their behavior; or they don’t know what kinds of adjustments should be made. The benefits of gaining control are many. Better control means longer and usually more enjoyable sex, especially intercourse. Men who achieved this feel more confident and better about themselves as lovers.
The squeeze method which was developed in 1970 by Masters & Johnson, involves sexual stimulation until the man feels he is ready to ejaculate. Once the man senses that he is about to ejaculate, his partner stops sexual stimulation and gently squeezes the penis where the head meets the shaft for 10-20 seconds or until the feeling passes, and then she lets go. You and you partner may choose to repeat the sequence as many times as desired, or continue stimulation until time of ejaculation. This exercise for premature ejaculation can condition men to put off ejaculation for a longer period of time.
